CJ Scarlet - Outsmarting Predators: Essential Safety Tips for Concerned Parents

SEASON 3; Episode 7:

Welcome to Mature Allure. 

Would you like to know how to keep your children safe, protect them from danger and equip them with the knowledge and confidence they need to outwit predators? How likely is it that your children will be abused and who are the predators most likely to be?

In this episode, I meet CJ Scarlet, the Badass Grandma. CJ Scarlet is a danger expert, parenting coach, survivor advocate and herself a survivor of childhood mollestations and sexual assault. She has served as an executive director of a child advocacy center for abused children and as Director of Victims Issues for the NC Attorney General’s Office. She is also the author of several books that aim to turn your children into savvy badasses.

“When children are told it's not their fault and they get the help they need, they're very resilient, they can bounce back. It's when we don't tell, it's when we don't get help that we pay the price.”

“Predators are looking for people who don't have confidence. Confidence is the number one predator repellent.”

What we discuss:

(00:01) - Introduction

(03:46) - How to talk to your children about staying safe without scaring them to death.

(11:10) - CJ Scarlet’s message to you if you have suffered trauma, molestation or assault.

(14:40) What to do if you find out that someone is a perpetrator of abuse.

(19:01) The red flags that could mean your children are experiencing abuse.

(19:10) How to give your child a safe space to disclose who in their life they do not feel comfortable with.

(22:07) The two things to give your children so they can escape an unsafe situation.

(25:09) Advice if you suspect a child you know may be experiencing abuse.

Key Takeaways:

• Open the lines of communication on body safety from when your kids are in diapers.

• Let your children know that they can and should trust their intuition.

• Teach them to have strong physical and emotional boundaries.

• Equip them with the knowledge and skills to reinforce those boundaries.

• If you have suffered trauma it is so important to tell someone; get the help and support that you need to heal.

Learn more about CJ Scarlet, the Badass Grandma:

Website: https://www.cjscarlet.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cjscarlet/

Instagram: @thebadassgrandma

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6Aofj9vIkMRtWzaTlzPv1A

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/realbadassgma/

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